Three Things To Ruin A Relationship

1. Lack Of Communication – This is a big sign when things are going bad in a relationship. If one or both of you avoid big discussions then you know that this relationship isn’t going to last. If you really value your partner you will take the first step in communicating problems, wants, desires or issues.
2. Taking Each Other For Granted – If you find that you are taking your partner for granted, stop what you are doing and value the presence of your partner. Telling your partner thanks for doing something will really have an effect on them. If you find that your partner is taking you for granted, have the talk and explain to him or her what the problem is.
3. How You Handle Stress – This is an important part in your relationship and can break or make you stronger. When stress enters your relationship, the key is how to handle it. If you find that you bottle it in or don’t care to discuss it, this can have a negative impact on your relationship. Make sure with any stress that you talk it out and involve your partner.

5 Ways To A Great Relationship

1. 1. Make Sure You Are Still Independent From The Relationship – It’s a good idea that you still maintain your friendships outside of your relationship and still engage in activities like yoga or volleyball that you did before you met your boyfriend.
2. 2. Be Honest – I know it’s hard but being honest will make your relationship stronger. If your partner cannot handle being honest then you know that this won’t last.
3. 3. Don’t Forget About Romance – In the beginning of a relationship, heat and passion takes hold. Over time, though, it sizzles and romance begins. Make sure to foster this romance from the beginning. This will let your partner know that you are in it for the long haul.
4. 4. Don’t Take Each Other For Granted – Try not to get into a rut and be creative in your relationship. If you start taking each other for granted you may start to resent the other person and passion will lack.
5. 5. Communication Is Key – It’s very important that you communicate your needs and wants and desires to your partner.

1. Family Ties – It’s best not tell you boyfriend about what you really think about his parents. Even if his mom is rubbing you off the wrong way, keep you mouth shut. Do you best not to say anything negative to your boyfriend about his family as this will cause stress and make him choose sides. You do know blood is thicker than water.
2. Where You Spend Your Money – If you and your boyfriend don’t share funds then it’s best not to tell him what you buy. Many guys feel that all the things women buy like hair products, clothes and makeup is a waste. Instead allow him to compliment you on what your wearing and say thank you.
3. Past Relationships – Men are very competitive so when they ask about your past relationships, gloss over your past and just tell him he’s the best you’ve ever had. Don’t divulge how many men you’ve slept with and about “the one that got away.”
4. Any Medical Issues – Although this is a touchy subject, if women have had some medical issues in the past, you don’t have to tell your boyfriend. This information is for someone who is a keeper so wait it out.
5. What You Think About His Presents – Even though you write little notes, whisper in his ear when he dreams and email him hints of what you want for your birthday, you are bound to get something you didn’t expect from said boyfriend. Instead of ragging him, just smile and say thanks.

Learn To Listen Effectively
You may think you are listening but you may only be thinking of a comeback to make sure your point is across. Listen effectively means no interruptions, using open body language, giving your partner time to talk and repeating back what you heard him say. By doing this one thing will lessen the amount of arguments you may have.

Learn To Talk Effectively
Shouting, screaming, trying to always be right and sometimes belittling your partner are all not good communication skills. Talking effectively means not rambling on, being perceptive in how your partner is taking information and not being defensive. Know that your man will want to fix the problem fast and may not want to hear you explain the problem. Tell him it’s important for him to hear you.

Take a Breather
If you feel the argument or discussion is getting nowhere or is escalating too fast, take a 15 or 20 minute break away from each other. This will allow both your to calm down and think rationally.

Using these techniques will help your relationship become stronger. Talk it out!

Many relationships sail along in calm seas and over time hit an occasional storm testing how strong it is. It is normal and healthy for any relationship to experience this and doesn’t necessarily mean that the relationship is in trouble.

If your relationship is truly in trouble there would be red flags popping up that would be hard to miss. You and your mate can head off trouble in your relationship before it is too late by watching for some warning signs and knowing what to do.

Here are 10 signs of trouble in a relationship. If one or more of these sound familiar you may need to get proactive and begin the process of rebuilding your troubled relationship.

1- Communication is bad or negative. Communication is one of the most important things in any relationship. When it breaks down everything else including the romance will suffer.

2- Resentment. Negative emotions like this are bad no matter what the reason is. Resentment such as feelings that your mate has the better end or the upper hand is one of the 10 signs of trouble in a relationship.

3- Money is becoming more of an issue and is causing tension and anger.

4- Jealousy. Like resentment, jealousy is another sign that all is not well in your relationship. It is like telling your partner that you do not trust them.

5- Nagging. If either of you is nagging about trivial issues it can cause tension and trouble in your relationship.

6- Power struggles in the relationship. An emotional tug of war with both wanting to make the decisions and be in charge is bad for the relationship and breeds resentment.

7- Your sex life is not as good as it was in the beginning. Definitely a sign that the relationship needs help.

8- Spending more and more time apart from each other. Spending quality time together can begin to heal a troubled relationship.

9- Alcohol or drug abuse by either person can do serious damage to any relationship.

10- Either or both of you are losing your temper on a regular basis. Learning to compromise and take a deep breath before saying hurtful things is important.

These signs of trouble in a relationship can help you spot the problems and deal with them before it is too late. Learning to recognize red flags will lead to romance that can weather any storm.

Amit Avital – MakeLove2.0 Blog For Couples
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